Emily Griffin

Anonymous asked: what about Gaza and Ferguson John? do they not deserve your respect? you're such a hypocrite, i's disgusting

fishingboatproceeds:

I think this is a deeply flawed way of looking at the world.

Now, I have talked about Ferguson, and I’ve talked about Gaza. (In fact, I’ve been writing and talking about Israel and Palestine for more than a decade.) But there are many important problems facing the world that I haven’t talked about: I haven’t talked much about the civil war in South Sudan, or the epidemic of suicide among American military personnel, or the persecution of Muslim Rohingya people in Myanmar.

Is that okay? Is it okay for me to talk about, say, racism in football and lowering infant mortality in Ethiopia? Or must we all agree to discuss only  whatever is currently the ascendant news story? Is it disrespectful to Ferguson protesters to talk about continued political oppression in Egypt now that we are no longer reblogging images of the protests in Tahrir Square? I think this is a false choice: If you are talking about Ferguson and I am talking about Ethiopian health care, neither of us is hurting the other.

I think the challenge for activists and philanthropists online is in paying sustained attention, not over days or weeks but over years and decades. And I worry that when we turn our attention constantly from one outrage to another we end up not investing the time and work to facilitate actual change. We say “THE WORLD IS WATCHING,” and it is…until it isn’t. We’ve seen this again and again in Gaza and the West Bank. We’re seeing it in Iran. We’re seeing it in South Sudan. And we’re seeing it in the U.S., from net neutrality to Katrina recovery.

The truth is, these problems are complicated, and when the outrage passes we’re left with big and tangled and nuanced problems. I feel that too often that’s when we stop paying attention, because it gets really hard and there’s always a shiny new problem somewhere else that’s merely outrageous. I hope you’re paying attention to Ferguson in five years, anon, and I hope I am, too. I also hope I’m paying attention to child death in Ethiopia. I don’t think these things are mutually exclusive.

I really don’t want to minimize the effectiveness of online activism, because I know that it works: To use a personal example, I’ve learned a TON from the LGBT+ and sexual assault survivor communities in recent years online. People on tumblr make fun of me for apologizing all the time, but I apologize all the time because I am learning all the time, and every day I’m like, “Oh, man, Current Me has realized that Previous Me was so wrong about this!”

But we can only learn when we can listen. And when you call me a hypocrite for talking about X instead of talking about Y, it makes it really hard to listen.

At times, online discourse to me feels like we just sit in a circle screaming at each other until people get their feelings hurt and withdraw from the conversation, which leaves us with ever-smaller echo chambers, until finally we’re left only with those who entirely agree with us. I don’t think that’s how the overall worldwide level of suck gets decreased.

I might be wrong, of course. I often am. But I think we have to find ways to embrace nuance and complexity online. It’s hard—very, very hard—to make the most generous, most accepting, most forgiving assumptions about others. But I also really do think it’s the best way forward.

everyoneisgay:

!!! For Every Book Pre-Ordered, We Will Donate A Copy To A PFLAG Chapter !!!

SOMETHING AWESOME IS HAPPENING.

We recently talked to the lovely human beings at Chronicle Books (our book’s publisher), and explained how important we felt it was to get This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids in the hands of people who need it most: parents of LGBTQ kids (duh).

Chronicle agreed with us, and so through September 8th, every single pre-order for This is a Book for Parents of Gay Kids will be matched with a book donated to a local PFLAG Chapter!!!!

All you need to do is this:

1. Pre-order your copy
2. Go to this link to make sure your pre-order is matched!!

TADA! If you’ve already pre-ordered, you can still let Chronicle know and ensure that you are getting a copy donated.

This is pretty amazing.
Please share far & wide!!

xoxoxo

Dannielle & Kristin

(via chroniclebooks)

gayleforman:

My piece in The New York Times- Love loss, immortality, and the seed of #IfIStay: “In a Balm of Space and Time, Healing”.

Read it here.

gayleforman:

My piece in The New York Times- Love loss, immortality, and the seed of : “In a Balm of Space and Time, Healing”.

Read it here.

Hard decisions when packing for vacation

Hard decisions when packing for vacation

Daniel sorting celebrities…

47 Charming Facts about Children’s Books via John Green

chuckles…

just read this. exciting, fast read with a fiesty heroine! look for it January 2014.

just read this. exciting, fast read with a fiesty heroine! look for it January 2014.